Dood!

I went on a date recently with a guy I met online. As we were waiting to go into the theater he got a text from his friends asking him to hang out with them later that night. He commented that he didn't know why they were asking him since he had already told them he was going on a date with me. Then he laughed and told me "They told me you'd prolly be a dude!" He then told me a story of a different girl he dated who had a friend that might have been trans - but he wasn't sure. We had a brief discussion on gender. He's pretty open-minded, but I still decided not to tell him.

It's not the first time the 'dude' comment has come up in conversation with someone. One of my co-workers was mentioning something about prostitutes in SF, and how you had to be careful, cause some of them were dudes. I came out to him two months later. He felt really bad about the comment.

Part of me loves the irony of the whole thing. I can certainly appreciate it. It's validating to know that I pass well enough for them to feel comfortable telling me stuff like that. But the other part of me just hates it. I mean - a trans woman is not a dude. I'm pretty hard to offend, but if someone said to me "OMG! You're a dude!" I'd wanna claw his eyes out. I abhor violence, so that's saying something. I just wish people would think a bit more before they opened their mouths.