First Kiss

There is nothing quite like the moment you kiss a person for the first time. Especially if the environment lends itself to a fair amount of sexual tension. Like when you're with someone, and while you are enjoying their company and the conversation, in the back of your mind you're just longing to brush your lips against theirs. If the other person feels the same way, you reach a point where you both know it's inevitable, but you're also both unwilling to be the one to make the first move. So you keep slowly moving closer. You're arms 'accidentally' brush against one another, and stay there. You both lean in closer and closer. Maybe you snuggle together as you watch a movie. Then somehow it just happens. No one really initiates, but suddenly your looking into their eyes right before they close, and you feel their lips press against yours.

Or something similar.

Kissing is indeed an art form. There are good kissers, and bad. But the way the first kiss is delivered will usually clue you in immediately on what kind of kisser they are - even before your lips lock.

For instance - if there's absolutely no build-up, but rather a hasty smashing together of faces - that's usually a sign that someone is NOT a good kisser. These are the same kind of people that tend to ram their tongue down your throat.

Not to say that a sudden kiss is bad - it's just all in the delivery. One of the most memorable kissing experiences I've had was when someone walked straight up to me, held me in his arms, and passionately (i.e. - purposefully, but softly) kissed me. That was amazing!

See - and that's (in my humble opinion) what makes the difference between a good kisser and a bad one. A bad kisser just can't differentiate between types of kisses. Often they only have one style, and therefore have difficulty adjusting to a mood. But a good kisser is flexible. If the atmosphere is romantic, the kiss will be romantic. If the feeling around you is that of intense passion, the kiss will be more intense. They can flow back and forth between the two, and everywhere in between - playing with you, teasing you. It's a wordless conversation with licks, nips, bites, and all manner of oral dexterity replacing words, phrases, and sentences. In much the same way as a conversation can be stimulating, so too can making out be exhilarating. It is a dance between two partners who act and react with one another in a seamless flow of passion.

But the first time...that's where the tension lies. That is an element to a kiss that you usually only get to experience one time with someone. And it can magnify the power of a kiss to a degree that is nearly unimaginable. You cannot force it - you cannot fake it. It's either there or it's not. But when it is present - when it's so great that you can physically feel it, well...there is truly nothing quite like that first kiss.